I want more!

As someone who was brought up not to be greedy or selfish, can you imagine how I felt when I discovered that there is a part of me that always wants more? Pretty uncomfortable! And yet…I also saw…there always IS more, the universe is abundant, and we are always in the process of becoming more of who we are. So, now I am at peace with that part of me, I can have a laugh at myself, and say “I...
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A different way of mothering

When we begin any personal development work, often we start by looking at our family background, our nationality and our culture to see how we have been conditioned, to understand what beliefs and attitudes influence us. We can spend a long time exploring how our parents brought us up, what love we did or didn’t get, what gifts and qualities we inherited, and so on. Of course, it’s easy to bl...
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Appearances

How important is appearance to you? For me, it used to be that appearance was pretty high on my list. Brought up to look neat and tidy, not to look scruffy, I was taught to take pride in how I look. Moving up the social ladder, I see how it became even more important to me – dressing to impress, looking refined and elegant, choosing only the finest quality clothes. For a while, I cringed to ad...
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Go out and play!

How much space do you give yourself to: Feel your emotions; Play and have fun; Imagine, dream, be creative? In Hong Kong people work hard. Success is measured in dollar terms and job status, and people fear losing out. With an emphasis on doing, doing, doing, achieving, the energy is one of pushing, working harder and harder, and there’s an unspoken expec...
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Harmony and balance

Last night I went to the movies to see the Imitation Game, the story of the brilliant British mathematician, Alan Turing, a war hero who cracked the code of the Enigma machine used by the Germans during World War 2 with the result that many, many lives were saved. Considered to be pioneer of modern computers, he was a genius, a complicated man, a mind never at rest, and physically awkward. A homos...
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Friendships

When you look at the different areas of you life – say career, family, finances, personal development, health and well-being, etc….how important would you rate your friendships? On a scale of 1:10? The priority you give to your friendships is perhaps not as significant as how you feel about them. Do you feel nourished, safe within them? Uplifted? Do you enjoy being with your friends? Or, do y...
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Don't be selfish

Last night I was interviewed by Ana Isabel of My Spirit Radio in the UK on her show ‘Mind Matters’. In talking about Polishing the Diamond, Ana asked how to deal with the dilemma of putting our self first when we hold the belief that we must not be selfish, we must be kind and considerate to others. In going on the journey of ‘getting to know you’ - seeing our self more clearly, more ful...
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Say 'no' to bubble poppers; say 'yes' to you!

Once a year I give a week of my professional time to mentoring young women in Phnom Penh who are supported by Harpswell Foundation whose mission is to empower a new generation of women leaders in Cambodia. Focusing on a small number of bright young girls, Harspwell provides the opportunity to receive a university education and leadership training. The girls’ dreams are big, and I just love that...
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Crossing the Line

A few days ago, I met up with a long-time friend from the UK who was passing through Hong Kong. After catching up on family news, we talked about events in Europe, Paris in particular, the attack on the offices of Charlie Hebdo, the satirical magazine, and the role of the media. We talked about freedom of speech, each seeing it as a human right. I then found myself asking about the personal respon...
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Endings and New Beginnings

Spending time at home in Scotland this Christmas I saw the starkness of winter countryside and felt the coldness of winter. Wrapped up in many layers, I enjoyed the crispness in the air. Such a contrast to Hong Kong. Symbolically, winter is seen as a time of death and rebirth, a time of completing a circle. I found myself thinking about the cycles of life, about Mother Nature and how consistent s...
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