More peaceful, harmonious relationships

We’ve talked about managing difference in our relationships and whether our pattern is to judge or blame, to dominate, or perhaps keep silent. Many clients I find are uncomfortable dealing with conflict. Practically what can we do that can help create more peaceful, harmonious relationships?   You can: <!-- /w...
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Difference in relationships

Accepting that we are unique, the question perhaps is …how do we manage difference in our relationships? Since we all have our own perspectives and beliefs, differences are inevitable. What matters is how we manage these differences, and, this can make our relationship stronger or create a power struggle that tears it ...
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Difference - the only thing we have in common?

Passing through Heathrow last weekend, an HSBC advertisement caught my eye. ‘Difference – the only thing we have in common’, it declared, underpinned by the tagline ‘Together we thrive’. It got me pondering. Just as no two snowflakes are alike, we are each unique. We live our highest potential only when we can ...
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Heaven on earth

Have you ever experienced a moment of sheer joy when your heart felt like you could hardly speak? A moment of awe when you felt the harmony and beauty of everything around you? Mo...
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He tangata – it’s the people

Here in New Zealand, there\'s a Maori proverb which ponders what is the most important thing in the world. Their answer is \'he tangata, he tangata, he tangata\' – it is the people, the people, the people. People here, I\'ve found, are warm and friendly, down-to-earth, open and respectful. They tend to be humble. They list...
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Just the way you are

This morning in meditation the words of the song “I love you just the way you are…’ came, which got me pondering... How willing are you to let people be themselves and love them just the way they are? <...
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Joy in simplicity

D’you ever stop to reflect on how you live, your way of being? Are you someone who is busy, busy, constantly multi-tasking, your mind jumping around a constantly expanding to-do list, worrying about this or that, feeling stressed, overloaded?Or, do you take each day as it comes, make time to relax and breathe, and enjoy the moment? <!-- /wp:li...
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Forget about what's wrong with you...what's beautiful?

These past few weeks we’ve been looking at connecting to our heart and being joyful – and - what can get on the way of being joyful. Focusing on what is wrong with you is an easy trap to fall into when we go on the journey of understanding our self, digging into all the nooks and crannies so that we can come to a pla...
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What can get in the way of connecting to your joy?

Some people, it seems, find it hard to be happy – they are happy being miserable! Never satisfied with the status quo, never one hundred per cent at home anywhere, always worrying about this or that. They might not like to admit it, however, what lies underneath is a belief they should have or be more, they don’t feel recognised. <!-- wp:par...
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True joy

In our last blog, we touched on the topic of choosing to be joyful rather than be angry and reactive, or, live in grief and pain. What is joy? Thinking of joy, we might remember occasions when we felt really happy, when we felt a sense of sheer delight. Perhaps when we… received a gift, or some words, that touched our heart….savoured a great meal, superb wine, enjoyed ...
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