Challenges in life can have us feeling pain and a sense of loss. And, in order to protect ourself emotionally, it’s easy to fall into the trap of putting up walls. Then, if we judge ourself for what happened, if we see ourself as not having measured up, we can become hard-hearted – without even noticing it.
The judgement then filters everything we do. We monitor ourself to make sure we’re being appropriate, looking for opportunities that show us in a good light, it’s all about how we are seen. We need to be in control; we’re determined to get it right. And…sometimes, it can then be easier to be with our self than with others because when we are with others we fear being hurt and rejected again. And so, we shut people out – we separate.
Self rejection blocks our connection to our soul, and when that happens we fall down into negative energy.
How to get out of the vicious cycle? Burn the judgement and connect to the warmth within our heart!
What you can do is imagine the self rejection as the door to your connection…open the door…see what lies behind it. How does it feel…can you accept it… what do you need to do to keep the door open?
Opening and trusting our heart requires courage and a willingness to be vulnerable. The benefit of living from our heart is that our inner knowing opens up, we have access to our guidance, and at last we feel ‘at home’ with our self.
Changing the habit of rejecting our self and hiding our pain, we simply need to learn to feel again. We need our emotions. When you allow your soul to train your emotions to respond rather than react, what occurs is that old emotional energy that causes you to react without thought disappears. Magic! Open the door and connect to your heart, your soul, your joy.