Fun and adventure.. or ..safe and comfortable?
Is your story one of fun and adventure, or, are you someone who likes to feel safe and comfortable? If you’re happy being comfortable, that’s great. However, if it’s the case
Is your story one of fun and adventure, or, are you someone who likes to feel safe and comfortable? If you’re happy being comfortable, that’s great. However, if it’s the case
This month we’re looking at stories – the stories you tell yourself about your family, about growing up, your life, about who you are. Stories are wonderful, aren’t they, and
This month we’re looking at appearance and the roles we can play to hide who we really are because we don’t want to be seen – we feel uncomfortable being
Are you willing to say you just don’t know…you don’t know who you are any more, or what to do? Learning to be ok with not knowing…it can be scary,
Still looking at being willing to change…looking for external validation and approval can be something that gets in the way of listening to your intuition and ultimately being yourself. External
With awareness comes choice and personal responsibility – for your energy and how you interact with others. Of course, if you want to change something, you need to start with
One of the most common barriers to being willing to change is the need to feel secure – you’ve got to admit it, most of us like to feel comfortable.
Yesterday, sitting watching the sun sparkle on the sea… I found myself thinking ‘the sun always rises…’. A bit obvious perhaps and, because it does, for many people it’s a
Not knowing where you’re going can be the scariest, and, the most exciting thing in the world! When I came to Vanuatu in the middle of Covid, I had never
Often, it’s through the twists and turns, the challenges you face that you develop strength and resilience; and overcoming your challenges can transform you into someone you never imagined –
Being mentally tough, tough in the sense of not giving up, persisting under pressure, is important in working though any stress or change and it builds resilience. How do you
Whatever the crisis, its human nature to panic. Whether your world has been turned upside down by a global crisis, a natural disaster or a major life change, the first
With so many natural disasters happening around the world, this month we’re looking at finding resilience …how to cope, how to find your inner strength when something completely unexpected happens
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I can hit a point in life where I look around and find that I seem to have what I want, however I
This past week I watched a short reel on social media in which a mum talked her daughter through a tantrum and got her to smile…it was really powerful! The
Have you ever heard yourself say “I need some time out” and actually followed through? So often we talk about it, yet it doesn’t happen…in fact, sometimes it can feel
Not knowing …not knowing who you are or where you’re going can be scary and….it can exciting! When something unexpected happens which causes you to lose your sense of identity,
On 27th February, I got a message to ‘expect the unexpected’. The following day Vanuatu experienced the first of two major cyclones, back-to-back cyclones. Last Friday our power came back
Two cyclones and a national state of emergency has given Vanuatu a huge shake-up. And perhaps one of the biggest lessons has been not to take for granted who we
This month we’ve been talking about being vulnerable, about being open and honest in sharing who you are with others with all your gifts and human frailties. The question perhaps
When you take a risk and do something new, you make yourself vulnerable and through practising you gain self confidence. Of course, you might feel like a phony – that’s
One of the toughest lessons I’ve experienced around vulnerability is that pride can get in the way… it can so easily stop you from sharing with someone that you just
It’s a choice to be vulnerable, and, it takes strength. It’s something that many of us avoid because we worry about being rejected. For myself I have to admit… I’m
It’s easy to say we always have choice when it comes to how we show up in life… until you find yourself reacting! So, it’s good to understand your emotional
I once remember seeing a visual demonstration of what happens when you criticise yourself. Imagine a paper cup filled with water. The cup is you, the vessel. The water is
When things change, it’s easy to feel frustrated and grumpy, to complain that things aren’t the way they used to be. Hearing yourself complain is just one way you can
Excuses, excuses, we all make them. How easy is it to say … I don’t have enough time…I don’t deserve to…I’m only… I can’t because….? If you really want to
If you’ve ever felt disappointed, one thing I’ve learned is that behind it there’s always an expectation. Whenever you have an expectation, you want things to happen just as you
Soon we’ll be moving into 2023 and many of us will be happy to leave 2022 behind. It’s not been the easiest of years, it’s great to anticipate a new
Just separated or divorced? It’s not easy. The first thing I learned… the hard way I have to say… is to accept that things are as they are. Some things
If you’ve lost someone you loved, Christmas can be a painful reminder especially if it’s the first Christmas without them. I remember the year when my sister died… To be
I’m starting to think about Christmas… no plans, it’s a bit early for that here in Vanuatu, people are very much last minute and it’s all very easy, life is
When you look at your life, how would you describe your story so far? Is it one of fun and adventure, or, are you someone who likes to feel comfortable?
It seems everyone is talking about change, we are too – and our focus is on who you are becoming. After all, changing your life is all about changing you!