Being mentally tough, tough in the sense of not giving up, persisting under pressure, is important in working though any stress or change and it builds resilience. How do you
Whatever the crisis, its human nature to panic. Whether your world has been turned upside down by a global crisis, a natural disaster or a major life change, the first
With so many natural disasters happening around the world, this month we’re looking at finding resilience …how to cope, how to find your inner strength when something completely unexpected happens
This month we’ve been looking at how we live in a world where our focus tends to be on how things look and how our personality wants to be seen
When you don’t feel equal, when you don’t feel safe, it’s easy to hide your feelings, to hide behind a veneer and play a role that’s not who you really
Still talking about being seen naked…. when you’re naked, you can’t hide what you don’t like about yourself. So, if somewhere inside you judge yourself, you think you are bad
We’ve all heard the expression ‘don’t judge by appearances’, and yet how many of us do it? Its easy to form opinions according to our perception, our mind attaches labels,
Walking along the beach the other day, I found myself looking at my shadow. With the sun at my back, it seemed so much bigger than me…then when I turned
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I can hit a point in life where I look around and find that I seem to have what I want, however I
Talking about how we experience life… we each have a different filter according to our experiences, we see things with a different lens, and, sometimes what we think to be
Talking about the journey, what I’m seeing is it’s about how you experience life…and everyone’s experience is different. Do you focus on what’s missing, or, the joy of what’s present?
Taking a trip down memory lane recently, I realised that it’s been 9 years since Polishing the Diamond was published… and the adventure continues! Looking back to 2014, I remember
This past week I watched a short reel on social media in which a mum talked her daughter through a tantrum and got her to smile…it was really powerful! The
Reflecting on a childhood memory of playing in the woods around the strawberry mound where I imagined all the fairies lived, the magic I created with my imagination…I realised that
Sometimes you can feel that life is comfortable enough, you have everything you need, yet have a feeling that something is missing, you want more…. you just don’t know how
If you’re finding it challenging to feel the joy in life right now, you’re not alone. The past few years we’ve all experienced so much change and some of us
House sitting for friends who have two small kittens, these past few days I’ve been absolutely fascinated and delighted…observing their blinks and purrs, their curiosity, how they sometimes just sit
One of my friends, who is a bit of a worrier, recently joked that her mother used to say – “If you didn’t worry, you’d have something to worry about!”
Have you ever heard yourself say “I need some time out” and actually followed through? So often we talk about it, yet it doesn’t happen…in fact, sometimes it can feel
Not knowing …not knowing who you are or where you’re going can be scary and….it can exciting! When something unexpected happens which causes you to lose your sense of identity,
On 27th February, I got a message to ‘expect the unexpected’. The following day Vanuatu experienced the first of two major cyclones, back-to-back cyclones. Last Friday our power came back
Two cyclones and a national state of emergency has given Vanuatu a huge shake-up. And perhaps one of the biggest lessons has been not to take for granted who we
“Who in the world am I?”, asked Alice in her quest for identity. On the surface, a story that’s considered by some to be about fun and nonsense and appearance, underneath
This month we’ve been talking about being vulnerable, about being open and honest in sharing who you are with others with all your gifts and human frailties. The question perhaps
When you take a risk and do something new, you make yourself vulnerable and through practising you gain self confidence. Of course, you might feel like a phony – that’s
One of the toughest lessons I’ve experienced around vulnerability is that pride can get in the way… it can so easily stop you from sharing with someone that you just
It’s a choice to be vulnerable, and, it takes strength. It’s something that many of us avoid because we worry about being rejected. For myself I have to admit… I’m
It’s easy to say we always have choice when it comes to how we show up in life… until you find yourself reacting! So, it’s good to understand your emotional
I once remember seeing a visual demonstration of what happens when you criticise yourself. Imagine a paper cup filled with water. The cup is you, the vessel. The water is
When things change, it’s easy to feel frustrated and grumpy, to complain that things aren’t the way they used to be. Hearing yourself complain is just one way you can
Excuses, excuses, we all make them. How easy is it to say … I don’t have enough time…I don’t deserve to…I’m only… I can’t because….? If you really want to
If you’ve ever felt disappointed, one thing I’ve learned is that behind it there’s always an expectation. Whenever you have an expectation, you want things to happen just as you
Soon we’ll be moving into 2023 and many of us will be happy to leave 2022 behind. It’s not been the easiest of years, it’s great to anticipate a new
Just separated or divorced? It’s not easy. The first thing I learned… the hard way I have to say… is to accept that things are as they are. Some things
If you’ve lost someone you loved, Christmas can be a painful reminder especially if it’s the first Christmas without them. I remember the year when my sister died… To be
I’m starting to think about Christmas… no plans, it’s a bit early for that here in Vanuatu, people are very much last minute and it’s all very easy, life is
Last Christmas, with Covid and restrictions on travel, for a great many of us, it wasn’t possible to get together with family and friends as we normally do, it was
Last week I shared a little about my experience of being in quarantine, and how we can support ourself when we are alone , when we have nothing to do
This month we’ve looked at opening our heart to our guidance. In order to protect ourselves, sometimes we shut down our emotions and we can build layers and layers around
D’you ever feel that you’re holding it together by the skin of your teeth, you’re fighting whatever you’re facing in life or using force to will your life into happening